The Need for Fathers, Older Brothers, Mentors

Tomb of the Unknown Soldier

I was in Warsaw the other day and visited Poland's Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Countless numbers of unknown soldiers and unknown men have built and defended civilization. The comfortable lives we live come thanks to the sacrifices of these unknown warriors.

Masculine energy tames the unforgiving chaos of the wilderness. This energy wrestles with nature and molds an island of calm and serenity for humanity to blossom. It is the anchor, the foundation, the lighthouse to shine a path for others to follow. That is why fathers, older brothers, and male mentors are so vital. The wisdom they have brings stability. We clearly see the effects of a world without this calming presence.

The lack of a father figure affects all regardless of gender, race, religion, etc. Without that masculine buffer, the wilderness has free reign on children. Fears are exploited and the animalistic fight of flight instinct is cranked to overdrive. We see how this instinct affects women. They become feminists.

For the feminist, two patterns emerge. One is an overwhelming fear of men. All problems are due to the patriarchy because daddy wasn't there. Any male attention is viewed as sexual assault. The male presence is raping them. If the male boogeyman is destroyed, all problems will go away. Ironically, the feminists are just accelerating and worsening the problem by continuing to assault the male foundation. 

The second pattern can be described as the thousand cock stare. It is another extreme response to a lack of father stability. Like living check to check, survival is living cock to cock hoping the next scratch-off (more like jerk-off) lottery ticket is the father they never had. No father figure means no reference point in determining what is a good man. Because these women have no reference point, the wilderness beasts of bad boys have free reign to exploit them. Hope is drained from their eyes. The presence of a father brings balance to the system. Unstable systems accelerate and spin out of control.

We also see the effects of no father figure in the black community. The wilderness turns black kids into thugs. Drugs and violence are how problems are settled. Even worse, race baiters have convinced them that strong male authority figures (like the police), are not to be trusted. Without a father's guidance, kids are duped and exploited. Asking a child to go from 0 to 1 and produce something of value out of nothing is a nearly impossible high bar to set. Hope is drained from their eyes.

I see the lack of a father figure playing out it myself. I can feel the fear and anxiety due to a lack of a foundation. I have a hyper-sensitivity to uncertainty which manifests in various ways such as procrastination, analysis paralysis, and the mental freeze like a deer in headlights. I went through a depression/anger phase. I remember the feeling of uselessness and caring about nothing. And I was easy to exploit. With a steady diet of fear from the mainstream media, I embraced the fantasy of communism and feminism. I was a good beta soldier tricked into believing I was saving humanity from the patriarchy and capitalism. Thanks to the internet, I found male mentors and read wisdom from fatherly figures. I'm slowly unlearning the toxic material of the past.

The most important lesson a father can give their kids is confidence in their abilities. A father doesn't need to have all the answers. In fact, spoiling kids with all the answers does not help them prepare for the wilderness. It just makes them entitled babies. A father needs to demonstrate that he has the ability to problem solve and come up with creative solutions. And he needs to develop this ability in his children and provide enough stability so they are not overwhelmed. That way, instead of the animalistic instinct winning, the kid can develop an "I got this. I can figure this out" problem solving, logical mindset.

The fathers of the world allow humanity to go from 1 to 2. They allow kids to build on top of the existing civilization. It is much easier to go from 1 to 2 than it is to go from 0 to 1. Momentum is easier to maintain than it is to start. Building on a solid foundation lasts much longer than building on quick sand. If kids are left to fend for themselves, suddenly Lord of the Flies becomes reality rather than fiction.

James Damore, Population Distributions, and DACA

This post was inspired by Vox Day's book: Cuckservative: How "Conservatives" Betrayed America


Cuckservative is a Must Read

Fate it would seem led me to read Vox Day's book right when God Emperor Trump announced plans to end DACA (also known as The Dreamer's Program). The book explains the dangers of mass immigration from an economic, historical, and theological perspective. I cannot recommend this book enough to get a thorough understanding of how immigration policy has a lasting impact on a nation.

I mentioned in a previous post that I see immigration the same way I see titration in Chemistry.

The immigration of one solution to another

In a titration, the effects from one solution to another are not readily apparent.

A slow drip introduction of migrants is not noticeable at first. But with enough time, you end up dramatically changing the country to the point where you don't even recognize your own country. A culture and a country is determined by the individuals in the country. If you completely replace the individuals, you completely replace the country.

Human Biodiversity

Cuckservative got me thinking about James Damore and Google. You can read about James Damore's Google Manifesto here: Google’s Ideological Echo Chamber. What is funny/sad about the criticisms of the manifesto are that many of the critics have a poor/nonexistent understanding of statistics. They view the world in a binary fashion and cannot see distributions of people. If you do not understand averages, normal distribution, and standard deviation (basic statistics) please turn away now.

James talks about how biological differences between men and women lead to different population distributions and outcomes in tech. The same ideas of biological differences and population distributions can be applied to societies around the world. One topic Vox Day discusses in Cuckservative is human biodiversity.

Different races have different physical features. Some of the most apparent are melanin and skin tone. There are also subtle differences in bone density, limb length, and musculature makeup. Based on this information, is it any surprise then that certain nations seem to dominate particular sports in the Olympics?

Now we get into more controversial topics of biodiversity. There are differences in intelligence and in aggression among races. There is a strong correlation with intelligence and income. Monoamine oxidase A gene (MAOA) is known as the "warrior gene". The level of expression of this gene determines the level of aggression in response to provocation and this level of expression differences among races.

Higher levels of aggression were also associated with violence and crime. Now think about some stereotypes, crime statistics, income distributions and you can see why this is a controversial topic. In addition, these differences explain how different cultures resolve conflict. Some resolve through words, some resolve through fists and guns. Our US foreign policy has a misguided belief in egalitarianism. After all, we are all equal right? The "experts" believe all cultures should resolve differences the same way. And that is why our foreign policy is a mess.

These differences blow apart the narrative that differences in outcome among races is due to nurture and not nature. A very under-reported piece of legislation is the 1965 Immigration Act. This law removed quotas based on national and thus removed racial barriers of entry to the US. As a result, predominantly European immigrants were replaced with non-European immigrants. Egalitarianism often has the misguided assumption that migrants from one nation can replace existing citizens with no unintended consequences. If human biodiversity has taught us anything, populations are very much not equal and have very drastic differences in outcome.

Pick up Vox Day's book to learn more about the unintended consequences. Once you read this book, you begin to understand why Trump is so popular with his stricter stances on immigration.


Entrepreneurs and IQ

I am paraphrasing Jordan Peterson, but he has mentioned that the correlation between IQ and income is so strong, it can't be ignored. In other words, if we're going to have an honest conversation about anything related to population income, we need to factor in intelligence. I was looking up data for correlations between IQ and income and found this post: The incredible correlation between IQ & income. One chart that struck out immediately was a near perfect correlation between average IQ and median financial success in terms of a normalized Z score.

 Average IQ on the Y axis, median financial success on the X axis as normalized Z scores

Simply put, a normalized Z score is a standard deviation. 1 standard deviation of IQ is enough to be in the 2 standard deviation income range. The 85th percentile in intelligence (IQ ~115) can have the 98th percentile of wealth (be among the top 2%). 

Standard Deviations and Z scores

Roughly speaking, Pareto distribution tells us that 80% of the population will be the workers while 20% will be the entrepreneurs who hire the workers. Simple economics tells us that if you increase the supply of workers without increasing the demand for workers (entrepreneurs hiring workers), wages will go down. It will cost less to hire a worker because there is a surplus of workers.

Apply that to immigration. Are the immigration policies discriminatory enough to distinguish between people who will create jobs vs people who will take jobs? We have seen strong evidence that a certain level of intelligence is needed for entrepreneurship. Here is a list of countries by average IQ

Hong Kong	108
Singapore	108
China	105
Mexico	88
Iraq	87
Syria	83
Algeria	83
El Salvador	80

Is it no surprise that countries with higher average IQs have more business opportunities and stronger economies? The smart entrepreneurs drive the production. In the past, the US Army had IQ tests to restrict entry to the army if IQ was less than 83. It was determined at that point, it cost too much to teach the person to obey orders and be an able-bodied functioning member of the US military. What percentage of people from Latin America and the Middle East will be entrepreneurs and create jobs? How many will be workers taking jobs away? Even worse, how many will be productive members of society?

Asians and Jews for thousands of years emphasized education. Stefan Molyneux talked about race and IQ on one of his shows. He brought up the point that Jews could increase the IQ of a generation by a third of an IQ point. Continue to do this over thousands of years and the results are apparent for both Asians and Jews.

Even if you imported only high IQ people, guess how Asians and Jews vote? The mentality of FU to authority (see Magna Carta and Henry VIII) and is a rather English phenomenon.

2016 Exit Polls

Immigration must be tightly controlled to maintain the health of a nation. Different cultures have different values. If an immigrant refuses to adopt the cultures of the host country, conflict is inevitable if the cultures are not compatible. As much as we would like to believe culture is a social construct, genetic expressions of personality traits disagree. "Genes hold culture on a leash"

Life Metaphors from Physics and Chemistry Visualized

This post was inspired by Ed Latimore's post: My favorite metaphors from math and physics

I'm going to take Ed's examples one step further and visualize some of my favorite lessons from physics and chemistry and how they apply to life.

Pareto Principle

The Pareto Principle is also known as the 80/20 rule. To summarize this principle: 80% of your results comes from 20% of your inputs. Apply this to economics, 80% of the income is concentrated with 20% of the population. A few people hold most of the wealth.  The distribution is a Power Law Distribution shown below.

Power Law Distribution

This graph can be found everywhere. 20% men are having 80% of the sex. 80% of fitness results comes from 3 simple rules: Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep. Supplements would be addressing the 20% part of fitness results. 20% of your clients will give you 80% of your revenue.

To go more scientifically, Newton's law of universal gravitation follows this graph. The further away from Earth you go, the less gravitational pull you feel. This also applies to Boyle's law. For an ideal gas inside a container, as the volume of the container decreases, pressure increases. The Power Law is such a widespread phenomenon that you should immediately think about it in all the decisions you make. Knowing what effort belongs in that 20% and focusing your energy towards those efforts will yield tremendous results.

Acceleration and Gravity

As mentioned before, Newton's law of universal gravitation follows the Power Law. You can rotate and flip the graph make the effects of gravity more apparent.

Gravity

Gravity is a force when applied to a mass produces acceleration. The effects of acceleration are not very perceptible at first. The object does not fall much. But as time goes on, the object moves quicker and falls farther.

Going back to the Pareto Principle, addressing an issue within the first "20%" time-frame window prevents the problem from snowballing. Human development takes 18 years. The first 20% has the biggest impact on how the child grows up. Your health can rapidly deteriorate later in life if you don't address issues early on. 

Here's a mind blogging concept. The green dot represents what would happen if you removed gravity. Stopping acceleration does not stop the falling! You have to generate a force greater than gravity to reverse the trend. Depending on when you reverse the trend determines how little or how much ground you have to recover. Trying to turn your health around later on in life is much tougher because you have so much ground to make up. Deep down you know what you need to work on. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Slay the dragons while they are little!

State Changes

Question: Is water a solid or a liquid at 32 degrees? The answer is... both! Take an ice cube and start applying heat to it. As shown below, the temperature of the ice cube will start to increase over time. Once the ice hits 32 degrees, you enter the first red line.

State Changes

At this point, the ice cube does not change in temperature. Simply put, the heat is being used to break the bonds holding water molecules together. This causes the ice to melt. Once the ice has completely melted, the added heat will cause the temperature to rise. Same thing applies to boiling water.

There are times in your growth where you feel like you've stalled or hit a plateau. This is normal. You are transitioning from one state to another. Maintain the effort. If the plateau remains, investigate what is holding you back. See how you can break those bonds. There might be some friction (this will be covered later on) that may require an extra push to breakthrough.

Titration

Chemistry was my favorite high school subject. Maybe because it is the closest thing to magic. To an extent, chemistry allows you to change and transform matter. Plus explosions are always cool to create. Visualize a mad scientist with the lab coat and googles. Imagine beakers with different color solutions. Dexter's Laboratory! That is fantasized chemistry. 

Titration is used to determine the concentration of a solution. Acid-base titration is the most commonly known form. For example, you slowly drip your unknown base into an acid. Simply put, when an acid comes in contact with a base, you get some kind of salt and water.

Titration

On the left side of the curve, adding base does not change the pH much. Because there is plenty of acid to counter the base. At some point, you run out of acid and you get the vertical line. Now adding more base rapidly changes the pH until you reach the pH of the base.

Often times, life comes in spurts. Puberty is a big example of rapid changes. A small consistent change over time can lead to dramatic results. Ed is a great example of this. He put in the consistent work. He has now entered his breakthrough phase.

You can also apply this titration concept to the migrant crisis. A slow drip introduction of migrants is not noticeable at first. But with enough time, you end up dramatically changing the country to the point where you don't even recognize your own country. A culture and a country is determined by the individuals in the country. If you completely replace the individuals, you completely replace the country.

Inertia

Not sure if Ed saved the best for last, but I'll visualize his piece about inertia. This is from his post:

"Whether you are at rest or in motion, you want to stay that way. If you aren’t doing shit, you want to continue being lazy. If you’re killing it in life, you don’t want to slow down. The only thing that over comes inertia is force."

Friction

This curve illustrates force needed to move an object. As you apply more force on an object at rest, at some point, it will start moving. The vertical line is the point where the object starts moving. This is the important part. Once an object starts moving, you don't need as much force to keep it moving. 

Once you start killing it in life, it becomes easier to maintain that momentum compared to when you first start out. Once your efforts pass through the breakthrough point, it requires less effort to keep moving forward.

How to Slay Your Dragons

Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'

This post was inspired by Ed Latimore. Check out his 30 for 30: 30 Lessons From 30 Years of Life.

In his post, he saved the last lesson for the one that had the greatest impact on his life. It has a similar impact for me. "You only need 2 years to change any part of your life you are unsatisfied with." Depending on how old you are, 2 years is either a really long time or a really short time. It's a matter a perspective. For those nearing 30 (waves hand), 2 years is very quick. One minute you're out of college, and the next your 20s have flown by you.

In the movie Shawshank Redemption, Andy Dufresne spent 16.9 years of his life digging out of prison. Based on the math, he averaged 1/64" a day. It's a matter of perspective whether you believe that amount is insignificant. If you start with $1000 and invest $100 a week for 40 years, you'd be a millionaire assuming 7% interest. One hundred dollars seems insignificant compared to a million, but it adds up. A fraction of a inch of progress a day is the difference between someone stuck in prison and a free man (metaphorically).

We are all stuck in some mental prison. For some, they wait for the miracle wall-smasher that will instantly destroy the walls holding them back. This big divide between fantasy and reality can lead to major anger and resentment. For some, they see other inmates tunnels far ahead of theirs. They fall into the trap of comparing themselves to others. And then they give up because they are not where they "think" they should be. They fail to see the amount of time it took digging that tunnel. Another possibility, they don't realize their wall is not as thick as the other inmates and freedom is very attainable for them. Each mental prison varies.

Jordan Peterson talks about how he helps his patients in his clinical psychology work. He tries to inspire the hero out of them. This idea comes from Carl Jung and the Hero's Journey.

He is no hero who never met the dragon, or who, if he once saw it, declared afterwards that he saw nothing. Equally, only one who has risked the fight with the dragon and is not overcome by it wins the hoard, the “treasure hard to attain.”

Now with Dr. Peterson's patients, they are dealing with massive mental dragons. These are crippling, paralyzing dragons. And he helps his patients break down the big dragon into smaller pieces. He gets the patient to break down the piece as small as necessary so that the patient can make a step of progress. Remember even if it is just a fraction of an inch of progress, it adds up.

This is the hero's journey. To face your dragons and whittle it down for as long as it takes. In our gut, we can feel the dragons lurking inside of us. The Big 3 for me are fitness, women, and career. I have a feeling many men feel the same way. The successful people have the ability to break down their dragons into manageable pieces. The successful people embrace the suck and tackle those pieces for as long as necessary. The successful people have the ability to audit their progress and make the necessary corrections as needed. Check out Scott Adam's post about Goals vs. Systems and create a system that works for you.

Slay your dragons, win the treasure.

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